Podcast 002: Overcoming Networking Resistance

In this week’s episode, we’re talking about overcoming networking resistance. You know, that dread you might get in the pit of your stomach when it’s time to research, sign up for or go to an event or meet with someone for coffee. It’s like broccoli – you know it’s good for you, but you just can’t bring yourself to do it.

First things first: You’re not going to get over your fear of networking with the flip of a switch. This is going to take some work and some steadfastness, but before you know it, you’ll be an old pro at this!

I’ll tell you a little story I tell sometimes. I used to call one of two friends before an event, freaking out as I circled the block before I went in. I had to pinpoint what my goal was for the networking event before I could leave.  Was it to stay for a certain amount of time? Talk to a specific number of people? Have a specific number of meaningful conversations? I had to SIKE myself UP to go into these things.

And despite that planning and siking up process, some were still total busts. I cried all the way home a couple of times because I felt like a phony and stupid. But as I went to more and more events, it felt less dire. AND I was able to choose the groups I was going to more wisely, so that I was…finding my tribe (which we will talk about on May 23 with the founder of Six Degrees Society, Emily Merrill.)


In this week’s episode,

I’ll be talking to you about how to overcome any networking resistance you have using the four major hangups I run into with my clients and students. You know, those things that make you want to get back in your PJs and order a pile of nachos (no? Just me?).

Here they are so if any of ‘em sound familiar, this show is a must listen for you:

Hangup #1: I don’t know anyone

Hangup #2: No one will want to talk to me

Hangup #3: What am I going to talk about?

Hangup #4: Followup Hangup

Take a listen and let me know what you think. From experience (my own and my clients), overcoming networking resistance allows you to:

  • Easily and seamlessly find the right events that you just ‘belong’ at
  • Even thinking about canceling or no-showing will be a thing of the past
  • Authentically show up as you- unapologetically you
  • Not circle the block like me, circa 2014, pacing like a maniac
  • Not cry all the way home like me, again, circa 2014

Enjoy the episode and do let me know if any other tactics and ideas have worked for you!!

Career Passport Podcast


SHOW NOTES (Timings are approximate)

Introduction/Overview of Topic [:45]

Reasons Why You’re Here: [1:30]

Why It’s Important [2:10]

What Networking Isn’t [3:30]

Hangups and Approaches to Overcoming Hangups [4:30]

The Point of Info Coffee Chats & Differences between networking when you’re exploring versus job searching [5:20]

Script for Networking Coffee Chat for Exploring Career Options [6:45]

Approach for Job Searching [7:28]

Intro to Your Hangups [8:45]

Hangup #1: I don’t know anyone [10:10]

Hangup #2: No one will want to talk to me [13:15]

Hangup #3: What am I going to talk about? [18:07]

Hangup #4: Followup Hangup [21:25]


Resources Mentioned in the Episode:

Lou Adler’s  2016 Study on Networking

Fire Me I Beg You- Article on Finding a New Job

Six Degrees Society

BNI Networking Group

Toastmasters Group

Contact Management System: Highrisehq.com (free)

Dropbox: File sharing and saving

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Career Passport Podcast

Podcast Episode 001: Find (And Keep!) Energy & Time for Your Career Change.

The Career Passport Podcast is HERE!!!! Here’s the basic premise of the podcast – I actually don’t believe it’s necessary to have a dream job. In some cases, it’s just not possible at the moment or with the circumstances. And that’s ok. I know, it sounds crazy, given the messages we get all the live long day to ‘have it all’ and ‘build your dream life.’ Heck, I used to run workshops called “Snag Your Dream Job….and Life in the Process!”. NOPE.

It’s ok to just LIKE your job so you can pour your LOVE into the rest of your life…and who knows, maybe you’ll end up loving your job in the process.

 

THAT, my friend, is my jam. Takes some of the pressure off, doesn’t it? We’re all running around all the time trying to make everything “just so”…what if we didn’t have to??


We have some good stuff happening with regular series including:

  1. Day in the Life Series: One of the biggest worries out there when it comes to career transition is “What if I do all this, and then I hate the job? I don’t actually know what it’s like!” SO, I’m interviewing people who do specific jobs to get SUPER granular on what they do all day, so you can see what it’s actually like to do the job
  2. Holistic Help: I’m all about how all the areas of our life connect in very deep ways, so I’m interviewing people who can help you have a healthier life in mind, body, soul, finances- you name it. We’ll be talking about
  3. Career #RealTalk: I’m having guest talk about networking and personal narrative and sometimes I’ll be on air by myself giving you tools and tips on a specific career related topic. Think blog but…podcast. Each episode has a tool you can use to incorporate the lessons of the episode so you can build upon what you already know!
  4. Reader Questions: I’m answering listener questions live on the air so email podcast@jillozovek.com to submit one!

Ok, so now let’s get to the first episode.

Let’s face it: career change or pivoting your current career is not always easy, and there can be many rough spots throughout the transition. “What if no one responds to me?”, “Work is so busy; I don’t have time for this!” and many other thoughts, feelings, and emotions pop up during this time, and oftentimes, they can stagnate even the most motivated among us.

SO: How exactly do we keep our career change moving when life gets in the way? In this episode, I break down the three things you need and how to go out and get ‘em: a clear head, a calm work environment, and a plan.

 

 

Show Notes [Times are Approximate]:

 

About the Podcast:  [:40]
Show Outline- Loading up your toolkit for your career change: [2:45]
Mindfulness: [4:18]
Mindfulness: Benefits: [5:11]
Mindfulness: Studies: [6:20]
Ideas & Resources to get your started with Meditation:[9:41]
OWW Brain vs WOW Brain-[10:29]
Creating a Mantra That Sticks: [11:55]
Coping at Work: [13:20]
Boundary Setting: [13:30]
Rituals and Mantras [17:30]
How Do You Show Up To Work? [18:25]
Closing Out Your Day: [19:25]
Check Your Language at the Door: [20:50]
Career Change: Tactical Scheduling 4 Step Process: [22:16] (relates to downloadable tool)

 

Resources Mentioned In the Show:

 

Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg

Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin

OWW Brain Vs WOW Brain- Todd Herman

Harvard Study on Meditation

Conscious and Cognition Journal Study

Evernote for organizing the end of your day

Free Webinar Video File Download!

 

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Silver Lining: Know When to Hold ‘Em, and When to Fold ‘Em (Temporarily)

Silver Lining

I’ve always been a “muscle through it”, “get ‘er done at all costs” kinda lady.  I credit that partially to my nature, but also to many, many years in the events biz, which, generally speaking, condones, celebrates and oftentimes (due to the nature of events), requires that kind of mindset and drive.

I thought I had mostly shed that kind of go-go-go-ness since I’ve had my own business and since I’ve been helping millennial women transition careers and new moms get back into the workforce. But last month, on March 8, I was proven way, way wrong.

For about 3 weeks, I had a very, very severe episode of TMD (an inflammation of my jaw joint) which spread to my ear, jaw, head, neck and shoulders. The pain was intense, sharp, shooting and constant- and it felt like it was everywhere on the upper half of my body. There were moments when I thought it was never going to end and I was going to go nuts.
This, as you might imagine, has put everything on hold for future business expansion and my fun dreams I had storyboarded on my family vacation in Hawaii (retreats! Career development cooking classes and food tours! And more fun wacky stuff!)

My Type-A, Be There for Everyone and Every Commitment self was freaking out. FREAKING OUT. How was I going to keep every promise? Go to every meeting? Record those three podcasts I SO desperately wanted to record for my new podcast?  Exercise? Plan Career Development Coaching World Domination (kidding)?

The answer, which took me a few days to realize after fighting relentlessly against it, was simple: I wasn’t. Nope- wasn’t going to do that anytime soon.

And I’ll tell you, although the pain was still the same level of HOLY CRAP, that surrender in that moment, made it a little bit better. Sure, I wouldn’t be making an income (right at tax time- yay!) and sure my big plans for scaling and growing my business would need to be put on hold. And sure, I would end up paying close to $2000 in medical costs for it since insurance covered none of what I actually needed (acupuncture, pilates, TMJ orthopedic massages, a bite block from the dentist). But in that moment, I knew the ONLY thing to focus on was getting better, one lonnnnng seemingly endless second at a time, one step at a time.

And I did get better. And when I did get better, I did something different this time, which is the point of this entire post. I did nothing. I didn’t dive back into scheduling podcasts or running around to a billion meetings. Instead, I slept til I woke up. I went to two museums and I took an inspirational book (Essentialism, by Greg McKeown) and my journal to several coffee shops around the city and just sat with my thoughts about how I wanted to change my routine, my day to day, what I’m doing with my time, how I’m evaluating opportunities that come my  way, pursuing less activity but more meaning.

I’m listening to that new podcast everyone is talking about –S Town– and this isn’t giving any spoilers away but one of the people in the podcast estimates that we have about one-quarter of our entire lives for meaningful moments, after you take out sleep and mundane stuff you gotta do and such. I happened to be listening to S Town while recovering, so I doubt Pre-TMJ Jill would even have noticed it, but I stopped in my tracks when I heard it….25% of our time AT MOST? Damn.

So, why am I departing from my usual tips and tools kinds of posts to tell you all of this? Because through all this stepping back and easing back into work, going to museums, journaling, taking the time I needed, I am now much clearer and excited (and a little terrified) about where I’m headed. I wouldn’t have gotten to do that and would just still be on my hamster wheel if I hadn’t. So if you are going through something similar (and most of us do at some point), there could be an INCREDIBLE silver lining there to explore.

And I’m not saying it’s an easy decision to make. Not only do I have my fun human nature rooting against me in this (“Go, get more done Jill!”), but I am very aware of what happens when you’re responsible for your own income and aren’t working and have medical bills and other bills to pay. This isn’t like….the most fun I’ve ever had. I’m not sitting on a pot of gold under my butt at the end of a rainbow. But I gotta say, as I work through creative ways to get through this (Selling my wedding dress, consigning old clothes from my finance days, taking on a couple odd jobs (I sound like a carpenter- I am not)), I think I’ll look back on this and find this process to be one of the most rewarding of my life and I think, as painful as it was, I needed to have this experience to get me off my toosh and get me to stop making excuses for staying comfy where I was.

Because when it comes down to it, I want a heck of a lot more than 25% of my life to be full of meaningful moments and experiences. There is mundaneness in life- for SURE- I’m not saying every moment needs to be magical, but I no longer want to stand in my own damn way of those unicorn exciting moments because I’m too busy racing around to notice it.

The #1 Thing You Can Do For Your Career- Wherever You’re At

PROACTIVEI’m often asked questions like, “If I only do one thing to advance my career, what would you say I do?” And while I wish I had a silver bullet answer for a question like that, the truth is that it’s a bit more complicated than that.  You all work in different fields and have different skillsets and different personalities for starters. And I’m not a one size fits all kinda career lady.

 

BUT! (and there’s always a but). But nevertheless, I do have an answer to this question, and it is this: BE PROACTIVE. If you make that the guiding force of your career (and life overall), then you’ll be building your skillset, nurturing valuable relationships and able to see and reach for opportunities as you see them.

 

Ok, Jill. Grrrreatt.  What the heck does being proactive mean in practice?  I’m glad you asked:

  • Brush Up On Skills: And not just the ones you have in your current role, but also skills you’ll need to advance your career. This might mean taking an online course on Udemy or checking out Coursehorse or com for online learning. If it’s a bigger skill that can’t be learned by one small onling course (for example, you want to go from being a traditional web designer to a UX designer), you may want to consider longer courses where you can roll up your sleeves and actually create the end product for your portfolio. Don’t wait for your manager to suggest doing this- go out and get ‘er done yourself! (And check and see if your company has a tuition reimbursement program).
  • Reach Out to People You Never Thought You Would. We think once people reach a certain level in their careers, they’re unreachable. It’s a pretty common assessment people have of those who have ‘made It’ (yours truly included!). I’d like to challenge you to shed that thinking and reach out to people you never would have reached out to before. Take fear (of not hearing back, of being rejected) out of it- who is on your list, all the way up to the Michelle Obamas of the world? Obviously have a specific ask as relates to your career or reason for getting in touch, but beyond that, I think you’d be surprised at your response rate, since most people are scared out of their minds to do this! A story springs to mind about this. A pretty successful entrepreneur (and I’m blanking on his name at the moment, so forgive me!) did this as part of a project at Princeton. No one else even thought to reach out to business experts, but he did and got an audience from Eric Schmidt, CEO of Google, among many others.
  • Put Your Hand in the Air: Make it your business to know what the company’s upcoming projects and goals are and understand how your skills (and your future goals) might fit nicely with the project, so you can raise your hand for upcoming projects that make sense for the trajectory of your career. What we don’t want to have happen is you take on projects that aren’t mutually beneficial to both you and the company/department, and then you end up resenting working on it because it doesn’t align with you, your current skillset and/or your future goals. It would be like if I wanted to move into training and talent development, but raised my hand to be the de facto project manager for an upcoming event the company was running. There’s no alignment there, and I’m not learning any more about the area I want to take my career in!
  • Keep Your Network Fresh: Don’t wait for contacts to reach out to you for a catch-u. Be proactive. I highly recommend setting aside one evening after work a month (or maybe one morning before work, if you find yourself too tired after work) to reach out to your contacts and aim to grab two to three coffees throughout the month. Go to an event or two per month that’s relevant for you and build new connections to then add to this monthly outreach list. If you aim to see your best contacts once a quarter, then you’re on the right track.

 

 

What other ways have you been able to be proactive in your career? What success stories can you share about how proactivity has helped your career? I’d love to interview you for the Career Kitchen podcast (coming at you soon!).  Email me here and we’ll set up some time to chat.

The Raise: The Very First Step To #GettingTheRaise

I haven’t been blogging for a bit, mainly because I’m bumbling around like a maniac figuring out how to get my Career Kitchen podcast off the ground. (Tech= not my friend.). The goal here is to provide you, dear reader, with more 360-degree career tips and advice. What do I mean by that? I want to help you with all aspects of your career, not just the transition piece I’ve mostly been focused on lately. I do a fair bit of work in many areas – salary negotiation, asking for a raise, leadership development and navigating the workplace, to name a few- and I want to make sure that’s a big part of what I’m bringing you each week.

And I thought- while I’m fumbling around learning how to edit a podcast (oh boy), let’s get started giving you the goods NOW.

I’m hosting a free live “Show Me How” call with Q&A on February 7th on #GettingtheRaise (details to register are here.) let’s start by giving you exactly what you need to make that call a working call and get moving toward your raise. In other words, I want you to have the right information in front of you so you can use what we’re talking about on the call to get to implementing and ACTION right away!

So, what do you need to hit the ground running on TUESDAY with me?!

  • Median Salary: To get a down and dirty example for a potential raise, you want this for your job in your metro area with your level of expertise. I usually recommend people use all three sites that offer this data, knowing that the reality is probably somewhere in the middle. Those sites are payscale.com, www.glassdoor.com and www.salary.com. (Payscale offers the most comprehensive view, IMHO because it asks you fro years of experience, budget you manage (If applicable), and type of employer which the others don’t. There are questions of gender and ethnicity in there, which you can choose to not answer if you wish as well.) You can also check any professional associations you’re a member of for data, ask a mentor, or ask friends or colleagues in the same kinds of roles at other firms. It’s not an exact science, but if you get enough of these data points, the picture becomes clearer.
    • Advanced Tip: I always recommend to clients that they pay attention to available opportunities regardless of their satisfaction levels at their current company. So, you can also go on informational interviews or real life interviews to get a lay of the land and see what you might fetch elsewhere. After all the quickest way to get a big bump or raise is to switch companies. What do you have to lose by seeing what’s available for your skillset and expertise?
  • Average increase at your firm. From my experience personally and working with clients and fellow co-workers, there’s an average raise, but that doesn’t mean there’s not more for top contributors.
  • Your Contributions. It’s imperative to know how YOU contributed, both individually and as part of a team. Look at the goals for any projects (you can find that on project briefs or strategy docs you have) and the goals you and your manager set for you for this year. How did you do against that benchmark? (And if the goals are fuzzy, you may need to consider more concrete goals this year!)

So to get a good sense for the raise you want to ask for, let’s take a quick example for the median salary piece of this, since I know that can be confusing and nebulous Let’s say you’re a marketing manager in NYC with 5 years of experience in consumer products. I went through the payscale.com and got the report in this picture. This means that 50% of people make less than $86,110 and 50% of people in this profile make more than $86,110. And it looks like the entire range is $61k-$120k. While that’s quite a gap, you do know what other data points to gather to research what you’re worth in the market from the first bullet point above!

raise

 

 

 

median salary example from payscale.com

On Tuesday, February 7, 2017, we’ll be going through the next steps to #gettingtheraise. Join be by snagging your spot here!