We spend a lot of time “focused”, “with our eye on the prize”, which often leads to us being overtaxed and spent and overextended. I am NOTORIOUS for not taking a pause, getting as much done as possible in as little time as possible, work-wise and personally. Years ago, one of my lifelong friends dubbed me “the world’s most efficient human.” While I viewed that as an accolade at the time, these days I’m viewing it more as a burden, and as detrimental to my health.
Because Zombie Jill is no fun.
And moreover, some key things have happened in the last two weeks that I almost DIDN’T take a pause for. I literally let these two amazing things almost pass me by without full on celebrating:
- I got engaged to the love of my life.
- Villanova won the title game.
Within 10 days of each other. And I almost kept working right through it.
What did you almost do instead, Jill?
- I almost said I had to work the Friday of Final Four weekend so I couldn’t go to Houston with my dad, who wanted to go together.
- I almost worked Good Friday, two days after the engagement, versus going home for a long weekend of celebrating the engagement with my family.
I didn’t do either of those things, thank goodness, and I couldn’t be happier. Sure, I’m a little behind on my work and playing catchup on some marketing initiatives and goals I put on hold. After I took care of my clients, though- the most important part of this to me- I took a pause. And I fully enjoyed every second of the Final Four weekend with my dad and that RIDICULOUS history-changing buzzer beater for the championship with my fiance and friends last night. I have never felt so dialed in and “in the moment” as I have these last two weeks.
My dad and me at the Final Four in Houston.
Because this is what life is all about – these pauses. And I’d also like to offer this up as an alternative viewpoint: Maybe the pauses are what we should be focusing on and what we should be striving to experience. And maybe the busy work and the “I have to dos” and “I can’t because’s” are not the main event, but instead, they are the words that bring us perilously close to never having those “pause” moments. And what’s life if we’re just doing the ‘have to’s’ all the time?
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