I think I had something of an epiphany/breakthrough moment today.
For the first time, I took something off my plate. As opposed to…adding yet another thing to it. And I feel relieved. I’ve always been a ‘I can get everything done’ kind of lady. And I mean everything- not just every last to-do item on my work list, but also sleep, exercise, eat right, meditate, keep up with news and trends in biz, pleasure read, do my hobbies, travel, be there for friends and family and cultivate a loving and lasting relationship with the person I love with all my heart.
(Whoa, I got a little tired writing out that paragraph.)
For as long as I can remember, friends and colleagues have commenting on my ‘efficiency’, ‘can do attitude’ and ‘ability to get it alllll done’. I used to wear it as a badge of honor, and I’d smile when I heard it or saw it on an annual review.
That isn’t working for me anymore, and I feel like this is a breakthrough not just for me, but can also help those of you reading this and my wonderful clients and peeps.
And I think, on this lovely fall Friday, it’s worth taking the time to step back from the go-go-go nature of life (I bet some of you can relate!), and provide the following “permission” for lack of a better word:
It’s OK to take something off your plate.
Phew, I said it.
Life happens sometimes, and you work through it and with it with as much grace/calm/fortitude as you can cultivate, and you try your best not to view it as an epic uphill battle. (Old Jill= “OMG I’m MELTING! HELLLLLP!”; New Jill= something a little (ok, a lot) calmer and kinder to myself :) )
Starting a business or pulling the plug on a corporate paycheck or changing careers drastically- whatever it is you’re working through- is no easy task, as many people who’ve done it or are doing it know. And like I said, life does continue to happen no matter what kind of change you’re grappling with. So be a little kinder to yourself and a little more understanding and allow something to take a back seat for awhile. Only you know what that thing might be and the way to figure that out is to look at your priorities and why you’re placing priority on them. If it’s for anyone other than you, it’s time to shift focus.
“So, Jill, you said you’re ready to say ‘no’ to something, so what is that exactly? What is taking more of a front seat and what is taking more of a backseat for now?” Well, right now for me, family (blood relation and otherwise) is front and center, followed closely by my 1:1 clients. And certain business expansion initiatives are on hold for the time being as well as most social events.
It’s literally LITERALLY the first time I’ve said no. There will be others I am sure. It was a hard decision to make, because things have been going so well with my business and I’m feeling so fulfilled and happy with it, but now’s not the right time. And “muscling through” to just do it all anyway will un-align me in the long run, so it’s best to shut this ish down NOW. As as I’ve pondered this epiphany last night and this morning, I know it’s this new mindset is what’s going to keep me not only sane, but also will allow me to be the nice, caring individual I think I am when I’m at my best.
With that said, I’m off to go hang out with my sister from another mister and help her with her newborn, take her to lunch and maybe fold some baby clothes. And then I’m gonna go hang with my dad and go to a college football game, because he’s itching to go.
We can’t be our best career/professional selves without being our best selves first , so now it’s your turn: What will you take off your plate today? What do you want to make more room for? Leave a comment below or email me at email@example.com to share (or ask for help prioritizing!).