Episode 004: Finding Your (Networking) Tribe Without Large Conferences with Bad Wine

networkingA couple weeks ago we talked about overcoming the (common) feeling of resistance when it comes to networking. Listen Here. Sometimes we can be hesitant to network because we feel like we’re wading into a sea of events where there are 200 people in a sweaty conference hall pressing their business card into our hands, used car salesman/woman style.

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But it don’t gotta be like that, my friend.
I invite you to enter the world of “Finding your Tribe”, i.e. finding networking groups and “Business Besties” as our guest Emily Merrill from Six Degrees Society, calls ‘em in today’s episode.  And as a special bonus, for all of you out there looking to start a side project or business, you’ll hear Emily’s story about how she toiled for years and years to perfect Six Degrees Society (hint: it’s not how it sounds- it’s actually a LOT cooler and more fun.)
We talk about:

  • How to try out certain events and groups to see if it’s a fit (and know what your non-negotiables are)
  • Ice breaker conversation starters
  • Making the most out of limited time when looking for your core network
  • Using networking to test drive a new career or side biz project
  • Making networking work for you
  • Finding your core group for 9-5ers or business owners
  • Finding your tribe while traveling for pleasure
  • And so much more!

And this week’s freebie download is a cheat sheet of different networking groups that you might not have heard of that can put you WELL on your way to finding your core networking buddies. You can grab it here

 

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SHOW TIMES (timings are approximate)

Emily’s Story and Path to Entrepreneurism: 3:35

Why Networking Gets a Bad Rap: 11:45

Tips for How to Make Networking “Work” for You: 13:20

“Gamifying Networking “ as a Tactic: 16:20

The “picking up new friends at the food table” tactic 18:00

Convo Starters: 19:20

Resources & Tactics for Building Tribes: 22:20

Tactics for traditional office jobs: 25:50

Pre-Work Networking Tactic 27:35

Using networking to “get out of your career lane”: 29:45

Six Degrees Society- vision for future and how you can take advantage! 31:20

Resources for Other Places to Find Your Tribe 35:15

Out of the Box Networking Stories (for your inspo!) 36.20

 

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Podcast 003: Finding Your Purpose and Getting Unstuck- With Belma McCaffrey of Work Bigger

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This week I had the absolute pleasure of having Belma McCaffrey on the show. She’s the founder of Work Bigger, an organization dedicated to helping 20 and 30-somethings figure out what they want to do for work by helping them uncover and understand their professional mission.

You may remember from my first episode that I believe that you don’t have to absolutely love your job to have a fulfilling career and/or life, and so every episode of the show helps you think of ways that work FOR YOU on how to navigate…your career and life.

 

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This episode is for those among us who want a fulfilling career or side project complete with a mission of some kind, but they don’t know where to start or how to get unstuck. So this week we’re helping you get started by discussing:

  • How do you get super clear on what you want for work
  • Understanding what pushes your curiosity
  • Helping you take the first massive step to getting unstuck
  • How to test drive potential options
  • Identifying people and resources to tap into to learn more
  • Understanding how to get started if you want to be in a corporate role OR if you want your own thing

 

 

SHOW NOTES (Timings are approximate)

Belma’s Intro: 2:11

The conundrum millennials face: 5:04

How Work Bigger was born: 7:25

How do you get started in figuring out what you care about for work? 9:14

Framework for moving forward: Nexus of values, interests, and priorities 10:25

“What if I’m Indecisive?” 12:05

Examples of How To Test Drive Potential Career Options 13:45

How “But” Can be a HUGE Roadblock 14:50

Finding the Right Communities 16:50

Success Stories – people who’ve figured out what they want to do for work 20:00

Benefits of Knowing Your Essential Intent: 23:00

What if I Like Corporate Life? 25:25

How to Suss Out Culture of a Company- Does it intersect with your mission? 27:00

“I’m Stuck: How do I get out of my own way?” 30:50

 

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Resources Mentioned in the Episode:

 

Belma McCaffrey- Work Bigger

Freelancers Union – Spark Events

Six Degrees Society

Dreamers//Doers

The Lady Project

Essentialism- Greg McKeown: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less

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Podcast 002: Overcoming Networking Resistance

In this week’s episode, we’re talking about overcoming networking resistance. You know, that dread you might get in the pit of your stomach when it’s time to research, sign up for or go to an event or meet with someone for coffee. It’s like broccoli – you know it’s good for you, but you just can’t bring yourself to do it.

First things first: You’re not going to get over your fear of networking with the flip of a switch. This is going to take some work and some steadfastness, but before you know it, you’ll be an old pro at this!

I’ll tell you a little story I tell sometimes. I used to call one of two friends before an event, freaking out as I circled the block before I went in. I had to pinpoint what my goal was for the networking event before I could leave.  Was it to stay for a certain amount of time? Talk to a specific number of people? Have a specific number of meaningful conversations? I had to SIKE myself UP to go into these things.

And despite that planning and siking up process, some were still total busts. I cried all the way home a couple of times because I felt like a phony and stupid. But as I went to more and more events, it felt less dire. AND I was able to choose the groups I was going to more wisely, so that I was…finding my tribe (which we will talk about on May 23 with the founder of Six Degrees Society, Emily Merrill.)


In this week’s episode,

I’ll be talking to you about how to overcome any networking resistance you have using the four major hangups I run into with my clients and students. You know, those things that make you want to get back in your PJs and order a pile of nachos (no? Just me?).

Here they are so if any of ‘em sound familiar, this show is a must listen for you:

Hangup #1: I don’t know anyone

Hangup #2: No one will want to talk to me

Hangup #3: What am I going to talk about?

Hangup #4: Followup Hangup

Take a listen and let me know what you think. From experience (my own and my clients), overcoming networking resistance allows you to:

  • Easily and seamlessly find the right events that you just ‘belong’ at
  • Even thinking about canceling or no-showing will be a thing of the past
  • Authentically show up as you- unapologetically you
  • Not circle the block like me, circa 2014, pacing like a maniac
  • Not cry all the way home like me, again, circa 2014

Enjoy the episode and do let me know if any other tactics and ideas have worked for you!!

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SHOW NOTES (Timings are approximate)

Introduction/Overview of Topic [:45]

Reasons Why You’re Here: [1:30]

Why It’s Important [2:10]

What Networking Isn’t [3:30]

Hangups and Approaches to Overcoming Hangups [4:30]

The Point of Info Coffee Chats & Differences between networking when you’re exploring versus job searching [5:20]

Script for Networking Coffee Chat for Exploring Career Options [6:45]

Approach for Job Searching [7:28]

Intro to Your Hangups [8:45]

Hangup #1: I don’t know anyone [10:10]

Hangup #2: No one will want to talk to me [13:15]

Hangup #3: What am I going to talk about? [18:07]

Hangup #4: Followup Hangup [21:25]


Resources Mentioned in the Episode:

Lou Adler’s  2016 Study on Networking

Fire Me I Beg You- Article on Finding a New Job

Six Degrees Society

BNI Networking Group

Toastmasters Group

Contact Management System: Highrisehq.com (free)

Dropbox: File sharing and saving

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Podcast Episode 001: Find (And Keep!) Energy & Time for Your Career Change.

The Career Passport Podcast is HERE!!!! Here’s the basic premise of the podcast – I actually don’t believe it’s necessary to have a dream job. In some cases, it’s just not possible at the moment or with the circumstances. And that’s ok. I know, it sounds crazy, given the messages we get all the live long day to ‘have it all’ and ‘build your dream life.’ Heck, I used to run workshops called “Snag Your Dream Job….and Life in the Process!”. NOPE.

It’s ok to just LIKE your job so you can pour your LOVE into the rest of your life…and who knows, maybe you’ll end up loving your job in the process.

 

THAT, my friend, is my jam. Takes some of the pressure off, doesn’t it? We’re all running around all the time trying to make everything “just so”…what if we didn’t have to??


We have some good stuff happening with regular series including:

  1. Day in the Life Series: One of the biggest worries out there when it comes to career transition is “What if I do all this, and then I hate the job? I don’t actually know what it’s like!” SO, I’m interviewing people who do specific jobs to get SUPER granular on what they do all day, so you can see what it’s actually like to do the job
  2. Holistic Help: I’m all about how all the areas of our life connect in very deep ways, so I’m interviewing people who can help you have a healthier life in mind, body, soul, finances- you name it. We’ll be talking about
  3. Career #RealTalk: I’m having guest talk about networking and personal narrative and sometimes I’ll be on air by myself giving you tools and tips on a specific career related topic. Think blog but…podcast. Each episode has a tool you can use to incorporate the lessons of the episode so you can build upon what you already know!
  4. Reader Questions: I’m answering listener questions live on the air so email podcast@jillozovek.com to submit one!

Ok, so now let’s get to the first episode.

Let’s face it: career change or pivoting your current career is not always easy, and there can be many rough spots throughout the transition. “What if no one responds to me?”, “Work is so busy; I don’t have time for this!” and many other thoughts, feelings, and emotions pop up during this time, and oftentimes, they can stagnate even the most motivated among us.

SO: How exactly do we keep our career change moving when life gets in the way? In this episode, I break down the three things you need and how to go out and get ‘em: a clear head, a calm work environment, and a plan.

 

 

Show Notes [Times are Approximate]:

 

About the Podcast:  [:40]
Show Outline- Loading up your toolkit for your career change: [2:45]
Mindfulness: [4:18]
Mindfulness: Benefits: [5:11]
Mindfulness: Studies: [6:20]
Ideas & Resources to get your started with Meditation:[9:41]
OWW Brain vs WOW Brain-[10:29]
Creating a Mantra That Sticks: [11:55]
Coping at Work: [13:20]
Boundary Setting: [13:30]
Rituals and Mantras [17:30]
How Do You Show Up To Work? [18:25]
Closing Out Your Day: [19:25]
Check Your Language at the Door: [20:50]
Career Change: Tactical Scheduling 4 Step Process: [22:16] (relates to downloadable tool)

 

Resources Mentioned In the Show:

 

Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg

Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin

OWW Brain Vs WOW Brain- Todd Herman

Harvard Study on Meditation

Conscious and Cognition Journal Study

Evernote for organizing the end of your day

Free Webinar Video File Download!

 

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Silver Lining: Know When to Hold ‘Em, and When to Fold ‘Em (Temporarily)

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I’ve always been a “muscle through it”, “get ‘er done at all costs” kinda lady.  I credit that partially to my nature, but also to many, many years in the events biz, which, generally speaking, condones, celebrates and oftentimes (due to the nature of events), requires that kind of mindset and drive.

I thought I had mostly shed that kind of go-go-go-ness since I’ve had my own business and since I’ve been helping millennial women transition careers and new moms get back into the workforce. But last month, on March 8, I was proven way, way wrong.

For about 3 weeks, I had a very, very severe episode of TMD (an inflammation of my jaw joint) which spread to my ear, jaw, head, neck and shoulders. The pain was intense, sharp, shooting and constant- and it felt like it was everywhere on the upper half of my body. There were moments when I thought it was never going to end and I was going to go nuts.
This, as you might imagine, has put everything on hold for future business expansion and my fun dreams I had storyboarded on my family vacation in Hawaii (retreats! Career development cooking classes and food tours! And more fun wacky stuff!)

My Type-A, Be There for Everyone and Every Commitment self was freaking out. FREAKING OUT. How was I going to keep every promise? Go to every meeting? Record those three podcasts I SO desperately wanted to record for my new podcast?  Exercise? Plan Career Development Coaching World Domination (kidding)?

The answer, which took me a few days to realize after fighting relentlessly against it, was simple: I wasn’t. Nope- wasn’t going to do that anytime soon.

And I’ll tell you, although the pain was still the same level of HOLY CRAP, that surrender in that moment, made it a little bit better. Sure, I wouldn’t be making an income (right at tax time- yay!) and sure my big plans for scaling and growing my business would need to be put on hold. And sure, I would end up paying close to $2000 in medical costs for it since insurance covered none of what I actually needed (acupuncture, pilates, TMJ orthopedic massages, a bite block from the dentist). But in that moment, I knew the ONLY thing to focus on was getting better, one lonnnnng seemingly endless second at a time, one step at a time.

And I did get better. And when I did get better, I did something different this time, which is the point of this entire post. I did nothing. I didn’t dive back into scheduling podcasts or running around to a billion meetings. Instead, I slept til I woke up. I went to two museums and I took an inspirational book (Essentialism, by Greg McKeown) and my journal to several coffee shops around the city and just sat with my thoughts about how I wanted to change my routine, my day to day, what I’m doing with my time, how I’m evaluating opportunities that come my  way, pursuing less activity but more meaning.

I’m listening to that new podcast everyone is talking about –S Town– and this isn’t giving any spoilers away but one of the people in the podcast estimates that we have about one-quarter of our entire lives for meaningful moments, after you take out sleep and mundane stuff you gotta do and such. I happened to be listening to S Town while recovering, so I doubt Pre-TMJ Jill would even have noticed it, but I stopped in my tracks when I heard it….25% of our time AT MOST? Damn.

So, why am I departing from my usual tips and tools kinds of posts to tell you all of this? Because through all this stepping back and easing back into work, going to museums, journaling, taking the time I needed, I am now much clearer and excited (and a little terrified) about where I’m headed. I wouldn’t have gotten to do that and would just still be on my hamster wheel if I hadn’t. So if you are going through something similar (and most of us do at some point), there could be an INCREDIBLE silver lining there to explore.

And I’m not saying it’s an easy decision to make. Not only do I have my fun human nature rooting against me in this (“Go, get more done Jill!”), but I am very aware of what happens when you’re responsible for your own income and aren’t working and have medical bills and other bills to pay. This isn’t like….the most fun I’ve ever had. I’m not sitting on a pot of gold under my butt at the end of a rainbow. But I gotta say, as I work through creative ways to get through this (Selling my wedding dress, consigning old clothes from my finance days, taking on a couple odd jobs (I sound like a carpenter- I am not)), I think I’ll look back on this and find this process to be one of the most rewarding of my life and I think, as painful as it was, I needed to have this experience to get me off my toosh and get me to stop making excuses for staying comfy where I was.

Because when it comes down to it, I want a heck of a lot more than 25% of my life to be full of meaningful moments and experiences. There is mundaneness in life- for SURE- I’m not saying every moment needs to be magical, but I no longer want to stand in my own damn way of those unicorn exciting moments because I’m too busy racing around to notice it.